Thanks; it seriously is a relief to hear some support My family really doesn't bug me about this; it is more like coworkers and family friends. My boyfriend already has a daughter from a previous relationship, and she is arond 9 yrs. old. He doesn't have custody but sees her pretty often. He has no desire to have more kids, so I guess I have found my match I guess the real trouble would be, if one of us wanted to and the other didn't.