She most likely didn't eat because she still perceives that her shed isn't complete. Personally, I'd help her remove it (give her a soak or put her in a very damp pillowcase for a while, etc.), then give her a couple days to chill out before offering food- or wait until she's acting hungry (as if waiting to ambush prey in the evening).
Sounds like too much was going on when you all tried to handle her, & she felt threatened. Snakes are not "trainable" the way other pets are, so putting them back in their cage when they're stressed out is probably the best way to handle that (it's not "rewarding them for bad behavior"), unless you're good at calming them down while handling them, or don't mind risking a bite.