How do I built trust with my snake if it' possible

[Bogertophis]

...Also I kinda agree with the longer training sessions...

An example: one of my young (2+ years) Florida (yellow mix) rat snakes is hyper-sensitive & still very flighty- while her 2 sisters are unusually calm, I might add.

But even though she still may thrash & even body-roll at times when I pick her up, I just continue with gentle restraint (enough to hold on & not let her fall) until she calms down & "remembers" that she is safe with me. She actually gets very snuggly & calm, but she needs that initial reassurance, because her instincts are there to save her life if she lived in the wild.

Her tank is in my living room, & while that may seem like the wrong place for a flighty snake, it actually works to her advantage. Rat snakes DO seem to have better vision (& many appear to recognize us) better than many other snakes- and she often sits out in the open on driftwood, just calmly & deliberately watching me when I sit nearby. She has also improved greatly since she first hatched, getting calm much faster when I pick her up now- so it's clear that she has learned a great deal & remembers me.

When she was much younger, I got a few nips too, but not for a long time now. Patience pays off, & every snake may be just a little bit different- it's up to us to communicate that they're safe with us. I'm actually very fond of this goofy snake- most people might prefer her placid sisters, but I don't mind working a little to earn a snake's trust. At this point she obviously knows who I am when I'm nearby, but instinctively still may react some -right at first- to the feeling of being picked up...because in the wild, that's what PREDATORS do.

One of the funniest & most memorable sessions with Mirikel (so far) was when she thrashed terribly at first, but once I calmed her down, she ended up going in my long sleeve, then turning around just to peek out at the cuff, & she continued to do that, watching me for at least an hour while I was on my computer- as if she was just taking in all in, studying me. She's too big now to fit that sleeve but even after an hour, it was me that ended the session- she never wanted out, lol.

Nothing in the wild is harmless when it picks up a snake...always remember that. We're going directly against their instincts, because even if they're captive-bred, our snakes are still WILD animals, not domestic. It's up to us to be understanding & forgiving, & continue to show them that they're safe with us.

No one can tell you how long it will take for your snake to calm down- if you're not patient, you might have the wrong hobby. Often it's us that needs to evolve some.