Anyone else get like this? (Sorta depressing topic)

[Snagrio]

I had a similar experience when I lost my first tarantula - she'd only been here 2 days and never did well, I stayed up with her trying to give her water and keep her warm and finally had to admit I was doing more harm than good by intervening. I was shocked how hard I took it, I was in tears. But I think with spiders and sometimes reptiles it's hard because the relationship is very one-sided - you can care about them a lot but they don't understand that you're trying to help, and they take no comfort from you being there like a dog would. With a cat or dog that's sick or hurt, just you being there with them helps a lot, because they understand you're going to help them. I know people who work with injured wildlife and even a hawk or coyote will sometimes sit quietly for treatment because they start to put together "oh, this weird animal isn't here to hurt me."
With exotics too it can be hard to find people who understand and who won't say "well it was just a spider / it was just a lizard" etc etc. But I'm sure everybody here understands and knows how hard it can be.

Interesting you say this because I've had an experience where I believe an exotic animal did have something of an understanding that I was trying to help.

Earlier this year my BP had an exceptionally bad shed (I was really unwell at the time and fell behind with humidity levels), and by the time I was able to help remove the rest it was really stuck on. So I had to manually, gently, peel it off between soakings, with most of it being around the neck and most of the head.

Despite having to take over an hour to get it all off, he never once tried to bite me or flail around. Some minor jerking away whenever I had to work on his head sure, but it's as if he could understand what I was doing to enough of a degree that he didn't panic.