I have offered her food every 4 days and ive only held her once since she came here and that was because the tank we bought the owner had not told us about a hole in it but thats all patched up now, she had escaped the day we got her so that was a huge panic moment lol.
And ya, when I put the pinky into the warm water and then take them out mins later its cooled down alot.
we also have towels surrounding the tank to make her feel more secure.
I have started setting up her new enclosure, once I have it set up and shes in how long should I wait to try to feed her again?