I totally agree with this statement by Gio. I wouldn't even worry about present temperament, since a mellow snake could later turn aggressive and I've heard young boa's can start nippy and turn into sweet hearts. So I would go by size and pick the male if you want a smaller one. OR go by which ever is your visual favorite, regardless of the sex of it as long as you don't care that the female will get larger than the male.
If you prefer a smaller version and the male has the best visual that will make your choice pretty clear and easy.