I Wish I Could Reply to a Closed Thread

[rlditmars]

And I’m sorry if I read into that wrong but the mods seem to always feel so superior to the rest of the forum that it drives people to Facebook. And I don’t have a Facebook and don’t plan on it. Lol

Danger,
If the remarks of the Mod drive you to FB, then that will be your choice. In my opinion, you seem to take issue with authority. Just as a teacher in class, or a boss at work, or a police officer is in charge, there is usually a hierarchy to any social structure and in it, a person or persons at the top. They have the final say. You don't have to like what they say or even agree with it, but you do have to acknowledge, respect, and conform to it. It is how society functions properly. This is an "at-will" forum and not a democracy. There are rules which are posted and available to you from the onset. It is up to you to know them and abide by them. Non-compliance is not without consequence. Power can be, and is often abused. However, I have been on this forum for close to a decade and I have not seen an abuse of power here. I myself have been reprimanded in the past for infractions, and after stepping back, I realized I was responsible for the issue. The statements the Mods have made here are not killing the forum but are rather preserving the integrity of it. I think if you go out and look for another forum or FB group, you will have a significant challenge finding one that rivals the quality and community of this forum.

The other thing you may want to consider is why their words make you feel they are acting superior? More times than not, what we perceive in written word comes from a place of what we feel about our world around us, since there is no tone of voice or inflection. You may at the time of reading the response, been already dealing with something that had you feeling less than confident, or powerless. Just for the sake of an exercise, come back in a day or two and reread what was written here and see if it still feels the same. If your day or attitude is in a better place, you may find the words are received differently.

I'll finish by saying that I am not suggesting you or anyone else her should be a "Yes" person or never question the status quo. Questioning anything is how we learn and grow. But the question should open up dialogue, not impugn the person being questioned. Just my thoughts.