I think you've come to the right place.
I'm also a veteran of many a senseless flame war on internet forums. It's incredible that even on a snake/reptile forum there are the same petty egos at work. I tried a few and was really surprised to see the one-ups-manship, condescending nonsense, and just general nastiness, on a snake forum none-the-less!
This place is a rare gem where people treat each other with dignity and respect. Back in November when we had the mid-terms election, I don't think I saw a single thread on this site about politics. Quite the achievement in 2018!