Dude,
I'm at a loss. I'm super bummed as you were a person that got me thinking I should snatch this species up. While it did work out for me, I'm really bummed you've had two that have caused so many issues.
A very experienced retic buddy of mine said some retics just push. He followed up by saying he would never own one that does.
This hobby ins't about being miserable, and clearly you are there.
Do what you have to do brother.
Enough time and money!
Not worth it to either you or the animal to continue this.