So to clarify one thing, they are NOT housed together. Definitely not. I say she isn't because she is very very skiddish. She runs away at any movement. She had gotten a little better lately with my holding her, and for the first time in a month, she ate today. I was ecstatic. Their temps fluctuate because the temperature in the house fluctuates. The temps are always in range though, where they are supposed to be. I'm new to ball python problems. I'm sorry.
I have a ten gallon tank I feed the male ball in, and when I said I've tried feeding her in there i meant after he was fed, I thought this was obvious. They never have any contact with one another for anything.