Sounds like you are housing them together?
Big nono. He is obv. More dominant and will choose the best places.to be etc. Therefor she is constantly stressed and handling her to tame her doesn't help. No matter if only twice the week.
Please clarify if they are housed together or not, because the rest of the advice will all depend on that.
Kudos to you for seeking out help and advice. This will get straightened out and she will eat once it's done.
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