It is normal for babies to be defensive, and it can take several months for them to chill out. With a snake that small I would just reach in and scoop her up from behind.
Defensive adults, WC critters, species that stress easily like sunbeam snakes, or species like the yellow anacondas or tree pythons that are known for being flighty all their lives are more likely to be your "look but don't touch" critters.