nellie was extremely shy when i first got her, though she never actually balled up. she would mostly just try to find a place to hide. and she did use the bathroom on me several times when she was younger. it is possible that now i just avoid long holding sessions when i see the sausage butt, and that is why she hasn't done it recently though. at first i held her for a short period, 10-15 minutes, every day except for the 2 days after she ate. now i hold her 2-3 times per week. she has completely mellowed out and is content to lay on my lap or curled around my wrist. i think that if you just work with them and hold them consistently when they are young they will, in most cases, acclimate really well and become quite calm and used to handling. cb babies are more inclined to be calmer from the start though, than ch babies, which is just part of the reason it is better to get cb babies if possible.