Thanks everyone.
Poly=Polyamorous, which in practical terms means that he has a second, long-term partner. I don’t, and really don’t want one. It was a lot of work to figure out, and learn to live with, both ways. He struggled with trying to remain monogamous for many years, but never cheated on me. Poly relationships can vary widely, but the important thing is that it’s ethical - everybody involved knows what’s going on, who’s dating/married to who, etc. Like LGBT people are just wired that way, poly people are just wired that way. It isn’t about more sex partners, it’s about love and caring. It wasn’t an easy decision, but I decided I was happier with him and him having a poly relationship than without him.
In Dracos’ ideal world, all three of us (him, me, and my metamour (partner’s partner that I’m not romantically involved with) would share one big house, with two kitchens, because otherwise there would be warfare.
In reality . . . not so much on the one house thing. He knows that I need to feel like the primary partner, even though he doesn’t think of us as primary/secondary. Fortunately, he’s content with the two of us, a third would make things *really* crazy! My metamour and I are friends.
In 20/20 hindsight I likely suffered from depression for many many years before the poly thing got more serious. Working through that just identified it.
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Originally Posted by Prognathodon
Thanks everyone.
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