Well, I started by fixing the husbandry and leaving him alone. She brought the whole set-up over. I made some adjustments to the heat and also moved him to a smaller tub (he's tiny, only 11 grams). Then I put him in a quiet part of the house and covered the tub with a towel and left him alone for a week, only opening to check in and freshen up his water dish. At this point the husbandry was better, he wasn't being handled and he (I assume) felt more secure.
I offered on tongs first, but only for a second, even though I was almost positive he wouldn't take it, just to entice him a bit. Then I left the pinkie and him alone with the towel back over the tub and an hour later it was gone.
So I've been sticking to this routine and he has eaten all 3 offerings. I was advised to wait a week after the first feeding since he hasn't eaten in so long, if ever. So I waited a week, then five days. I'm going to offer every five days for 3 more feedings and then try every three days for a little while to bulk him up. Apparently, my friend got him from a craigslist ad. The previous owner couldn't get him to eat either, so got rid of him. So in the 4+ months that these two people had him he never ate once. I think I got a little lucky, but I think they were handling him and didn't have the husbandry right too.