There is a learning curve, I think

[PitOnTheProwl]

I think everyone involved would benefit from a course in collaborative communication followed by a weekend at the landmark forum. But hey, what do I know.

I think it would be more interesting to find a way to get everyone in a room face to face........

[Stewart_Reptiles]

I think it would be more interesting to find a way to get everyone in a room face to face........

Will there be a rainbow and a unicorn?

[PitOnTheProwl]

I do know and have met several members of this forum.
Its easy to missunderstand and/or hide behind this great interweb that we use.
I like meeting people and then reading their past posts.
I also like going back and reading past posts of those that did get all hurt and then realized those of us that are a little more blunt were not doing it for any other reason than that it is just the way we are.
Then again my wife always laughs when I hit one of yall for language violations. Over 20 years in the automotive field, if I can keep it clean here then anyone can...

[m1lkhoney]

I got a language violation once, actually. Oopsies.

Lots of interesting responses, thanks. I may have also forgotten to mention that I'm studying to be a peer counselor and I talk to suicidal teens/adults on a mental health website. Therefore I'm just conditioned to use words carefully and sometimes forget to get out of "work mode". On top of that, I have a psych condition that makes neutral comments often sound like negative comments. I'm working on it.

And no, I am not requesting unicorns or rainbows. In fact I wonder why people like them at all, considering they could in theory stab you.

I wrote another post about a scary incident I had with my snake and I see it got a lot of replies, for example. I'm sure some are constructive but some may be blunt enough to upset me a lot. I'll read the replies eventually but I'm having a difficult day so perhaps now is not the time.

Thank you you again for all the answers.

[PitOnTheProwl]

Lots of interesting responses, thanks. I may have also forgotten to mention that I'm studying to be a peer counselor and I talk to suicidal teens/adults on a mental health website.

I as there once. That was also the night my wife told me she was pregnant.........
That .44 mag is still in my gun safe in the exact same condition it was in after I spun the cylinder.
Lets just leave it as I would have painted the whole ceiling had she not come into the room 21 years ago.
It is a reminder for me.

[m1lkhoney]

Was in the ICU for an overdose in February. Someone found me in time.

Have not been your exact there, but I've been a kind of there.

Anyway, I sure do love ball pythons!

[m1lkhoney]

Last response was not meant to be flippant, by the way. Just didn't want to make you uncomfortable.

[wolfy-hound]

I see a lot of newer people come on here and post about how their snake won't eat and it takes an act of Congress to get any details of the set up because the person insists "It's set up fine!" Then finally they mention the snake is in a 50g glass aquarium with heat lamps and a heat rock and no hides but "it's fine I just want to know how to make it eat!".

When you post "If you don't put your UTH on a thermostat, you could burn your snake" and get a response of "omg ur so mean! I luve my sneak!" with unhappy emotes, you could start to understand why people get just a tad ornery when people start to cry about how everyone should be "nicer".

When you have someone who insists they can't take their beloved pet to a vet and so we should just stop being so mean and tell them how to treat the rodent gnawed wounds they've ignored for a month, then it starts to become more clear.

Of course, we should all treat every new person who comes in with supreme kindness and gentle questions so as to not make them uncomfortable with the truth that they have been making their snake stressed/ill/injured. But we're all human(except maybe Deborah, I think she's a cranky computer program) and some days a tiny bit more snark or a snappish reply does make it onto the web.

One thing you cannot fault is that this is one of the nicest forums online. If you don't believe me, please visit several of the other ones and compare. Another thing no one can dispute is that THIS forum is made up of people who really have the animal's best interest in mind... even when it might hurt the owner's feelings to hear it.

And if a person is too shy or afraid to ask for advice, we also have a metric buttload of caresheets posted on the forums that have all the info without needing any threads at all, in most cases.

[PitOnTheProwl]

And if a person is too shy or afraid to ask for advice, we also have a metric buttload of caresheets posted on the forums that have all the info without needing any threads at all, in most cases.

Thats why you are in purple LoL

[dkatz4]

I know when i first got my snake i joined a few forums, and this is the only one i stay on precisely b/c the members are so much more civil than on the others. Sometimes i see a terse reply here or there, but really small potatoes when you see some of the flame-jobs that get tossed around on other sites.
That being said, i have been guilty myself of copping a 'tude with nubes - not here - but on a FB page for software i use. My favorite passive-aggressive way to express my distain is to make a "let me google that for you" link for them. Gets the point across without being nasty.
If you haven't seen it, check out lmgtfy.com, its hilarious!

Better yet, go to this link for an example http://bfy.tw/7MSf -Nothing rude or obscene, i assure you.