I Guess It Is Time To Give Up?

[PitOnTheProwl]

Respect your mother, you already know what the answer is so stop pushing it.
Her roof, her rules.
Like I told my son, If you don't like it get your own place.

[DVirginiana]

Her house, her rules. If it were just that she didn't want the annoyance it'd be a different situation (still her rules, but it might be more appropriate to put together a case for you to get a snake), but when someone has a legitimate fear of an animal you're talking about serious mental sacrifice on their part to have it in their house. For someone with a phobia, having a snake in the house can be a serious ongoing stress, even if they agreed to work on their fear, and that's a lot to ask of anyone.

[Albert Clark]

It's very cruel to push your wants and desires onto someone who clearly has expressed their fear and wanton dislike of your intentions. Your mother has a right to the way she feels and you need to respect that. Reptile keepers have to always remember that people have deep seated fears of these animals and don't need us trying to talk them into trying to like them much less hold them. Actually some people have such a real phobia of snakes that is bound to their religious beliefs that they may look at seeing a snake as some sort of curse. This could possibly lead to them having a medical emergency as well such as chest pains and or difficulty breathing, fainting , dizziness or a flat out heart attack! Nothing to play with!

[C2tcardin]

7 years gives you plenty of time to plan your snake collection when you get your own house and can set your own rules. Don't give up 7 years is nothing it will go by either way so enjoy it and prepare!

[LittleTreeGuy]

I had a mother that said no to a LOT of things I wanted (or thought I wanted) while I was growing up and living at home... in HER house.

Well, I got a job and moved out when I was 19. I got some tattoos. I get one every few years. I like them. I bought myself a skateboard for my 30th birthday and learned to skate. She would never let me have one, but I still had that passion for wanting to do it. I gave it up after a few months. Falling down hurt too much. She never wanted me to have a remote controlled airplane. I now have about ten and have been flying for about 15 years. She never let me have a pet. I've had a dog for 12 years, cat for 11 years, I've had fish on and off, and I got a snake last year. I'm 39.

Morale of the story, as others have said... be patient. If it's really a "dream" of yours, you can make it happen. Sometimes you have to work to make it happen, and it may take longer than you want, but use that time to learn more about what you want... then when the time comes, you can spend more time enjoying it and not having to quickly learn all about it.

I'm guessing you're a bit younger than I am, so you probably don't want to hear this, but please, respect and love your mother. You've only got one, and one day you'll look back and wish you could have hugged her a little more, told her you loved her a little more, and you'll miss her. Keep in good and do as right as you can by your mom. Good things come to those who wait.

[Snipes Ma Bipes]

I used to catch garters and such when I was a kid in the 80s and 90s. I've always loved snakes. My parents wouldn't let me get one either. Now I have my own family, and my own snakes. My kids aren't afraid of them as they look T them as their pets.

Bottom line is wait until you have the proper means to own such a pet, and use your moms fear to motivate you to make sure your kids aren't afraid.

We we all know a fear of snakes is irrational, but it is still a persons fear. You have to respect that. All you can do is positively influence the next generation.

[MysticMoon001]

OK I know you have probably heard this plenty of times from the other members but, I am a firm believer that repetition can be a good thing.

My mom is deathly afraid of snakes and lizards. She hates them with a passion and often tells me that I am 'crazy, weird, and strange, for ever liking a slithery, slimy biting monstrosity. And that I will be unwelcome in her home if I EVER have any of them in my coat pockets, purse, or around my neck.' This I respected because of how much my mom is afraid of these creatures. My mom will NEVER get over her fear of snakes in particular and no amount of me prodding, trying to MAKE her understand, or giving over facts will ever change that. She can't even stand to see a rubber snake toy without screaming and jumping up on a chair or something.

But I loved them. I left my mother's place at 18. I traveled a bit, started college, found a job, and rented an apartment with the money that I saved when I was a kid. This took me about five years to accomplish give or take a few months. I had to make sure I had all my ducks in a row before I even considered having an animal. Life became crazy after that (college courses, jobs, and stress) and only when I believed I could fit enough time into snakes did I get them.

All in all, it is about being patient. You might not be able to have one now but in due time you will. So no, it is not time to give it up. Just have patience and you WILL be able to have one. Take this time to know yourself, do your research, and figure out the little but important things about owning a snake.

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[ReptiMoto]

My parents were against the whole snake thing too. So I just brought one home. Not the best advice but hey I have a snake now that I love and my parents like him too after seeing him.

[Kokorobosoi]

I wouldn't advise that. A true phobia is a fearsome thing and will push people straight into irrational and sometimes regrettable behavior.

I am phobic of snakes. Absolutely bat turd crazy until it's gone. And if it's gone because I lost it and now don't know where it is.... I reach a whole new level of clinical.

I would find it perfectly reasonable at the time to throw out a person living in my home who broke my house rules and snuck one in. Out on their rear with no where to go and I would have no remorse. It's a perfect way to learn about consequences.

Just st my opinion, and your miles may vary.

[bubs327]

My dad hates snakes and completely shut it down whenever I asked as a kid. For some people, it's just a phobia that they CAN'T get over. I feel the same way about spiders and insects, no offense meant to those enthusiasts -- I can't seem to get past it, no matter what I try.

The second I moved out I got my first snake and have been keeping them for over a decade now. Look on the bright side and think of the snake fund you could save in 7 years. Not to mention all the cool new morphs that'll be out there.