Sorry to burst your little bubble but this is a public forum and they dont work like that, anything posted is open for anyone to comment on... There isnt a thing wrong with this forum, the problem is the people who dont understand how public forum works, and then want to cry and complain when people dont act towards them exactly how they want and yes when someone comes on trying to down a member for asking legitamit questions of course the established memebers are going to say something, thats how it works on basically any forum you'll find.
If you cant handle people responding to your post then dont make one.

Op you did the absolute best thing coming here to ask questions, dont ever hesitate to ask questions your not 100% sure of the answer to