Kind of reminds me on our boa. A boa bite sucks... I'd take form a ball python five times over before one boa bite. My husband and mother in law can hold him but I can't. What really sucks about it though is that it has made me fear him. So it has gotten worse... for me anyway. I don't think BPs understand the whole reward system so even if you put her back, I doubt she would it like a reward. My advice is to hold her, more then you husband. Bite or no bite. You have to show no fear. Getting bit sucks but it may be the only way to get her to trust you.