Hahaha, well, whistling wont help. All snakes are deaf. The best way to lift a ball python is with confidence. As she gets older and if she is a strong eater, you just might get tagged. Of course this is not with all ball pythons, they each have different personalities. With most of mine I have to lift up their hides. Yes it is normal and more often then not this is how it works. I am a woman so the arm hair thing doesn't really apply to me. Most of my BPs enjoy tangling themselves through my hair though as they seem to like the heat from my neck. No flinching there. But some BPs are my head sensitive then others. I have a few who could care less if I touched their head but most of them would freak out if I did. I really wouldn't worry about that too much.