I'm sorry about your loss. As far as information on doing things wrong I'm not a expert on it. But I can tell you that cool side is fine. But hot spot to my knowledge I have mine in the low 90's
I have hatchlings that came out of the egg at 50 grams and I don't feed smaller then a hopper. So it's safe to say that you could feed a ball python at least that big. Not so big for a 30-40gram as said above. But I don't believe a 7 month old should be eating pinkies mice.
I hope this does get you down. I feel like you absolutely love snakes and all. So don't beat yourself up. Just keep asking questions and learning. We are heat to help.
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