Perhaps you could talk her into attending a reptile expo with you. This would give you both a chance to meet many breeders and hold lots of different snakes to find the perfect fit for you. My suggestion would be to find a breeder that is close to your area who you feel comfortable talking to. At expos you could have a chance to talk to the vendors and forge a relationship with some of them. That way if you have questions you could call some of them to help you out.