My husband was and is still afraid of snakes. He was on deployment when I asked him if I could get my first one and even though he hates them, he is a sucker for making me happy so he said yes. Before the end of his deployment I had 5 and now I have 9. He doesn't care any more for them now but as long as they are in their own room and in a secure rack, he is fine with me indulging myself in my hobby. He did not "allow" me to have snakes. I believe anything in a relationship should be mutual so I asked him if it was ok. If he felt too uncomfortable with having them around I would have accepted it and moved on. In exchange for him being ok with it, I put absolutely no pressure on him to touch/hold or otherwise enjoy their company.
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