Give yourself some time. When my husband got our snake it took me about a week to take him out of the tank. I checked in on him everyday, watched how my husband grabbed him (no sudden movements and make sure he saw us) and would change his water (involved me sticking my hand in the tank). I also figured, if the snakes going to bite me, he's going to bite me, it will hurt but I'll get over it. I'm his primary handler now, we've had him 2.5 years. Just remember to go slow and go look at him everyday. Once you feel comfortable, just do it. Make sure the snake sees you, sometimes a light pet before picking up helps. Remember to grab the upper or middle part of the body.