I understand that, but her father is reading this (I'm assuming) and nowhere did you specify that you were speaking to her father. In fact, you used the word you in your posts, which implies that you are speaking to the OP. While your intention may have been to speak in regards to her father, using the word you and not being clear can easily make a post feel like it was meant to beat her over the head. Whether the OP feels that way or not, I don't know. I'm just stating my opinion as to how I read it and how I would have perceived the posts were I in her shoes.