Funny you write this I was having a discussion at my office today about this. We encourage our kids to go out explore and learn on there own and also learn from us and others. We set certain expectations and limits and hold each one accountable for there own actions. If they fail at something we talk it over and make it a learning experience, not a negative. I believe to feel true success you must know how failure feels, it also makes you appreciate your success more.

Oh we also teach them that life is not fair and never will be so don't let someone tell you "that's not fair".