Bene is the exact same way - whereas his female counterpart and clutchmate is just downright outgoing. From behind is indeed the key if you really need to get at his head - just don't freak him out too bad. When 'Suki had her difficult shed with remainders on her head it was good that he eventually let me help rub it off. Definitely do NOT FORCIBLY RUB IT - that will indeed stress him out. Give it plenty of time and a lot more slooooow handling without a lot of movement near the head. Let's face it WE get more out of rubbing their heads than THEY do