New to the forum - can use some advice.

[ARamos8]

The whole frozen/live debate. While the concept of frozen seems more convenient, is that the case in reality? I understand that it may be cheaper but the idea of having mice in the freezer, then having to thaw them might be something that is a hassle to deal with? I am not sure the wife would even allow this option.

I feed F/T - Its very easy and takes no time at all (small group of snakes) - Place it in a container, add warm water, wait, then feed.

Do they need to be fed in a separate tank? We never did this as kids but it seems I read that over and over. I would think it may create some stress for the animal moving it back after eating as well as possibly a higher chance of the snake striking her?

Mine do everything in their tubs.

As my wife despises snakes, I was thinking a male would be better for her as they are generally smaller in size. Aside from value does it matter? Is one more docile than the other?

No, there is nothing definitive. Overall, ball pythons have a really good disposition and males are smaller.

I like the idea of either re-homing one that an owner can no longer keep or buying one from an enthusiast. I understand there are risks in this thinking as you do not always know the history of the animal and in cases there would be no way or returning a snake. There is certainly a cost benefit as I regularly see snakes, and the complete setup on Craigslist for far cheaper than at a pet store (I do not want to buy from a pet store).

Make sure you can acquire one with a complete setup.

Lastly my thinking was rather than get a "normal" ball I should get her one that has some sort of breeding value. I am generally not crazy about obtaining a pet for the "look", but if they are about the same temperament-wise then I guess it is not so bad (she loves the spiders!). My thinking here was if husbandry was something she may wish to do she would not have to give up her now beloved pet (we have some experience in this realm). In addition if it were something that she lost interest in then recouping some of the cost would also be a possibility.

This one point here can start a thread all on its own . To keep it simple, pick one out that appeals and with proper husbandry it will thrive.

Thanks to all in advance and sorry for the long post.

Best of luck...