We are doing a mixture of both. Sometimes it is after attempting to feed F/T but the majority of the time we assist feed first and then allow her to skip a few offerings like you said.
I can go pick up some aspen for her and crumple up some paper. She has one of the black plastic hides from reptile basics as well.
We usually attempt all feedings right around 6-8pm with minimal lighting. The retic is the exception, we feed him during the day.