Ex wife not wanting me to see my son because of her fear of snakes

[Raven01]

IMO its just like a gun rack. I mean, if it's always locked and in a separate locked room, what's the big deal?

I think he might be referring to the states(meaning any western government, not America in particular) habit of favouring mothers in custody issues, refusing to prosecute mothers breaking court orders, etc.

Logic ceases at the steps to any family court.

[Parysa]

Yes I keep them in a seperate heated, humidifier, and in racks except the but he is in a glass aquarium with a lockable sliding lid, ANd most importantly THE ROOM HAS A LOCK ON IT (keyed entry lock)


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There you go. You're doing it right.

This is a visitation issue, not a custody issue. It's much, much harder to lose visitation than it is to lose custody. At least in AL, you have to get the courts involved BEFORE you can keep a kid from the visiting parent, even if it's due to safety reasons. If she's not involving at least DHR, she can't keep him from you. The burden of proof lies on the parent claiming unsafe conditions.

[rascal_rascal_99]

There you go. You're doing it right.

This is a visitation issue, not a custody issue. It's much, much harder to lose visitation than it is to lose custody. At least in AL, you have to get the courts involved BEFORE you can keep a kid from the visiting parent, even if it's due to safety reasons. If she's not involving at least DHR, she can't keep him from you. The burden of proof lies on the parent claiming unsafe conditions.

Pretty sure it's the same here, she can't just decide on her own (no parent can) that the other parent is not going to be allowed their time with the child, if they do then it's most likely contempt of court.

To the OP... Obviously you know you need to talk with your lawyer, I would suggest setting up a meeting in your house with your child, your lawyer and DCS (NOT the ex) and you try to keep back as much as possible so that the people from DCS can see your childs true feelings about the snakes without your influence.

[bcr229]

To the OP... Obviously you know you need to talk with your lawyer, I would suggest setting up a meeting in your house with your child, your lawyer and DCS (NOT the ex) and you try to keep back as much as possible so that the people from DCS can see your childs true feelings about the snakes without your influence.

No way would I bring DCS into my home, invited or not. People tend to be more prejudiced against snakes than firearms. A video of the OP's son handling his favorite snakes and being cool with it should be enough.

[dsirkle]

If your ex were to file papers with the Court stating that you have constrictors capable of killing your son and she is fearful of him going to your home, all it would take would be a Judge that has no real knowledge of snakes that gets info about them from television and you could easily end up with a Court order for you to have all visits with your son away from your home.
Also, IMO you would be making a terrible mistake in inviting State investigators into your home, whose only function is to look for and find things that are wrong with a home environment.
You better tiptoe around this issue.