Desert Female Concerns

[SaintTawny]

Honestly, I would love a candid conversation about what people have PERSONALLY seen with their desert females, complete with as many pictures as can be found. Unfortunately, I don't have high hopes for this, because the nature of a "hobby" that many people have made careers out of is that it can be quite secretive, doubly so when there's a problem. You've seen the reaction some people get when they say they bred a Desert female. They get skewered. Now, I will always always try to phrase my disapproval in a way that is not an attack on the breeder, because I don't think anyone deserves to be attacked like that for trying their luck. Doubly so if they've just lost a dear pet or a whole clutch of eggs. I wouldn't try it, and if you asked me whether you should I'd say no, but what's done is done. Regardless, people are getting flamed whenever they post an attempt, and everyone else sees that. If it doesn't deter them, but they get the same poor results, why would they share that and welcome the hate?

Can we talk about this like adults? Some of us are capable. Some of us are not. Even if we get a lively and respectful conversation going, all it takes is one sourpuss to tear things up and get people heated and then the whole thread gets shut down or off track.

Is there a way we can initiate this conversation with the understanding (and help from the mods) that any vicious comments or personal attacks will be deleted promptly? I would genuinely love it if this could be simply a place for documenting problems without the hate.