I'm lucky with my spider. He'll eat anything put in front of him almost right away. It doesn't matter who's around and he'll eat right out in the open. Other then that though, it takes some time. My normal wouldn't eat in front of me for over a month, then she got used to me. Even then though, she was always very aggressive before and after feeding time, which is very unlike my spider. I think some are just more shy then others.