Is it just me...

[TheSnakeGuy]

Get off my lawn! . . . Lol

[Anya]

I'm not referring to anything in particular (much), guys, just a general atmosphere I'm getting, that I haven't before. People being snarky, opinionated, in in other's face's is nothing new around here, but it just seems like there's so much of it these past couple days.
Annnd, I just got my FIRST negative feedback, for expressing an opinion of my own! Seriously, YOU'RE allowed to be ridiculously rude to follow member, but I'm not allowed to back her up, and express my opinion? Yeah, something really messed up right there.

[Anya]

Sorry; hopefully I didn't go too far. When people in veterinary medicine speak poorly of their (our) own field it bugs me.

lol, not at all, I was, however, referring to everyone ELSE around you. I would probably do the same if I had the cred to back it up.

[Mrl249]

I'm not referring to anything in particular (much), guys, just a general atmosphere I'm getting, that I haven't before. People being snarky, opinionated, in in other's face's is nothing new around here, but it just seems like there's so much of it these past couple days.
colbert:

This is everyday!Very few people on here respect the term " if you dont have anything nice to say". They always have to correct them or throw it in their face. There is a lot of favoritism in this forum and I hate it. Some people can post a great thread and not get one response. While other more "popular" member's post a picture of a cup of coffee (just an example) or something ! And BAM!
"Thanks for sharing "
"Woah! That's a sick mug!"
All this feedback for something so stupid.

I don't comment ALLL the time but I do feel the need to congratulate people or , give my condolences, so on and so forth. Yes, there are a lot of beginners, but it doesn't mean that as people join you getting higher up in the totem pole. That's the kind of attitude a lot of users have on here. (Not an overall majority but a good handful). It pretty much boils down to who has the most time to be on this forum and post. I work 2 jobs and run this ball python hobby. A good chunk of "popular" people on here have never even bred before ( which isn't a bad thing) but I don't see why they sit here for hours and hours giving advice if they have never had hands on experience. I'm sure it is much appreciated by others but.... Don't you have anything better to do? Like clean cages? Or scrub water bowls? There is always something to do. This is NOT directed toward everyone so please don't get those panties all bunched up.

Sorry guys just had to vent.

[Anya]

This is everyday!Very few people on here respect the term " if you dont have anything nice to say". They always have to correct them or throw it in their face. There is a lot of favoritism in this forum and I hate it. Some people can post a great thread and not get one response. While other more "popular" member's post a picture of a cup of coffee (just an example) or something ! And BAM!
"Thanks for sharing "
"Woah! That's a sick mug!"
All this feedback for something so stupid.

I don't comment ALLL the time but I do feel the need to congratulate people or , give my condolences, so on and so forth. Yes, there are a lot of beginners, but it doesn't mean that as people join you getting higher up in the totem pole. That's the kind of attitude a lot of users have on here. (Not an overall majority but a good handful). It pretty much boils down to who has the most time to be on this forum and post. I work 2 jobs and run this ball python hobby. A good chunk of "popular" people on here have never even bred before ( which isn't a bad thing) but I don't see why they sit here for hours and hours giving advice if they have never had hands on experience. I'm sure it is much appreciated by others but.... Don't you have anything better to do? Like clean cages? Or scrub water bowls? There is always something to do. This is NOT directed toward everyone so please don't get those panties all bunched up.

Sorry guys just had to vent.

I just don't remember it being like this before. (I took a break for almost a year) There are a lot of really nice members on her, but they seem to be getting lost in a sea of grumpiness. *sigh*, I guess just like every sci-fi show will eventually turn into Star Trek, every forum will always descend into a grumpifest. I'm still sticking around, though, if only to be nice, lol.

[Kodieh]

If everyone believes the same thing, there'd be no reason for this site and no reason for new comers to ask questions. Want to be coddled, head on out the door. The sugar coating washes off when you log in.

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[Anya]

If everyone believes the same thing, there'd be no reason for this site and no reason for new comers to ask questions. Want to be coddled, head on out the door. The sugar coating washes off when you log in.

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Doesn't mean you can't be nice and at the very least, civil. I mean, seriously, you want people to ask questions, and be educated? Be a group of people that others want to approach.

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If everyone believes the same thing, there'd be no reason for this site and no reason for new comers to ask questions. Want to be coddled, head on out the door. The sugar coating washes off when you log in.

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Doesn't mean you can't be nice and at the very least, civil. I mean, seriously, you want people to ask questions, and be educated? Be a group of people that others want to approach.

[Kaorte]

Kodie..... that is exactly the crankiness she is talking about. You are ASSuming that she thinks that everyone should have the same opinion. Clearly, that is not the case.

There is a difference between sugar coating and being CONSIDERATE and KIND to your fellow reptile lovers. Don't use that as an excuse to perpetuate the bad attitudes we see on this site.



I hear you Anya. I see it all too often. Threads get out of control for various reasons... most of the time I don't understand it. I don't understand why we, who share in common a really cool hobby, feel the need to jump down each other's throats for differing opinions. Now don't get me wrong, I love a debate as long as people are being respectful of one another.

This whole attitude like "oh well I don't need to sugar coat anything because its the internet and I can say what I want", well sure you can say what you want, but you also need to think about how other people are going to read your posts. Simple changes can mean the difference between coming off as arrogant and rude or considerate but with a differing opinion.


I think people need to think their words through a little more before they click the "submit" button.

[Kodieh]

Doesn't mean you can't be nice and at the very least, civil. I mean, seriously, you want people to ask questions, and be educated? Be a group of people that others want to approach.

I wouldn't say I'm unapproachable. Or anyone I call friends here. People are critical, sure, but if anything I've learned in life is how to take criticism. People have too soft of skin and in the time I spend here I don't gear my response to spout warm and fuzzies.

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[Kaorte]

Taking criticism is one thing. Learning how to give CONSTRUCTIVE criticism is another. Always start with a positive, insert a negative, and hopefully end with a positive. There are ways to be nice without "sugar coating".