Need advice..

[OsirisRa32]

Yay for being adopted!! Both my younger brother and I are...and one of my close friends and co-workers had half of her siblings and herself all adopted out of Ethiopia (six of them)!!

[I-KandyReptiles]

Yay for being adopted!! Both my younger brother and I are...and one of my close friends and co-workers had half of her siblings and herself all adopted out of Ethiopia (six of them)!!

Yeah, my uncle thought he could try to break me by saying that no one loves me, etc.

No offense to children with their biological parents, but I was brought up to believe I'm special. I wasn't an "accident" or something planned. I was CHOSEN. They didnt have to adopt me. Adoption isn't something that can be forced. I was loved enough that they went through the process of adoption and chose ME!

I dunno, I was always told I was adopted and dont think of it as a big deal.

[Kensa]

I'm glad to hear that your grandma finally stepped up and told her son he has to move out. Hopefully she sticks to her guns and forces him out.

That is really pathetic what his daughter did to you. Unfortunately, the apple doesn't fall from the tree. Looks like she is right in line to be a 'winner' just like dear old dad.

[Skilla6000]

So sorry to hear your story, I hope your grandmother goes on with it and pushes him out. Remember stick with her and keep supporting her and telling her about the things he does. Still sit down with her and talk to her about it, don't let her get scared/be afraid of this situation and let him win. He sounds like an awful person and he needs to be removed before it starts affecting you even more.

[bcr229]

Not sure about in Canada, but in the US you can't just tell someone to "move out" and put their stuff on the street if he's lived somewhere long enough to be considered a resident. If your uncle doesn't leave you can help your grandma by finding out what's required legally for a formal eviction.

[I-KandyReptiles]

He never signed a lease, and doesn't pay rent so he's not a "tenant".

Things are going well. He should be gone soon. After she was able to spit it out that he has to move, I think she no longer fears him.

She's actually been talking about allowing me to keep my ASFs downstairs now once he's gone.

[carlson]

Yea if someone never signed the lease and doesn't pay rent, and is basically living with you out of the kindness of your heart you can throw them and all their stuff out. I'm talking the US, I've done it before one buddy thought he'd call the cops an have them force me into letting him stay another night. Cops got there I told them its my house he's been crashing on the couch for a month since his divorce, dudes drinking and has pushed me to the edge, no longer welcome in my house dont care what he or anybody says its my house he's not welcome. He spent 72 hrs in the drunk tank.
Glad your grandma stood up to him Bobba! I hate ppl that are like that their no good for anyone and use friendships or family as tools to help them be losers. So no more rat van soon?

[bcr229]

He never signed a lease, and doesn't pay rent so he's not a "tenant".

It varies by state in the US - some let people establish residency in just a week, others it's 30 days, whether or not there is a formal lease. This is why I suggested learning the eviction process in your area. Of course, if the druggie doesn't know that your grandma can't just toss his sorry rear end out the door, I certainly wouldn't tell him.

Once he's gone change the locks on the house and the car.

[PitOnTheProwl]

Yea if someone never signed the lease and doesn't pay rent, and is basically living with you out of the kindness of your heart you can throw them and all their stuff out. I'm talking the US, I've done it before one buddy thought he'd call the cops an have them force me into letting him stay another night.

The cops that came out are stupid to civil matters PD doesn't enforce any civil matters, they diffuse the situation how ever they can. Depending on your state they define the "resident" time. You are lucky he didn't take you to civil court and sue you for illegal eviction.

[carlson]

The cops that came out are stupid to civil matters PD doesn't enforce any civil matters, they diffuse the situation how ever they can. Depending on your state they define the "resident" time. You are lucky he didn't take you to civil court and sue you for illegal eviction.

How can you be a resident if out of the kindness of my heart I let you sleep on my couch? He paid no rent broke more than a few things, an didnt have more than a back pack. Far as I see it I own where I live your not a resident unless I have said this is where you live, if I say you can crash on my couch for a couple weeks while you find your own place. This isn't your residency this is a I'm being nice. Not trying to sound like a jerk ha just confused, I understand residency an I think it's a month in Minnesota. But from what I understood it was a you had to be living there have your things there, pay rent or have some kind of stake in that house some how not being someone who's aloud to sleep on the couch a few nights? Bah feel like I'm rambling trying to understand sorry