Need to talk to someone, feeling hurt and angry over my daughter and sports.

[Kaorte]

Ouch Really sorry to hear about this Gale!

Sounds like your daughter just really wants to be good at this, and you seem to be the enemy for trying to keep her safe. I don't think you are wrong though. She needs to understand that pushing herself like this is going to cause permanent damage to her body. She might end up living a life of chronic pain due to her injuries.

It saddens me to imagine her possible future. High school record times, trophies and medals. But she is sitting in a wheelchair or on crutches. Perhaps unable to go to college on those athletic scholarships she was awarded... Perhaps she does go to college and can't enjoy it as much as the rest of her peers because she is limited physically and in pain. You can stare at those trophies and awards all you want, but it doesn't make up for the pain she will have. That will be the biggest reminder of her "success" in high school.

High school seems really important when you are there, but once it is over you have your whole life ahead of you which is often much more exciting than anything that ever happened in high school.

She is 16 so it makes sense that she would push herself further than she normally would. It is so hard to be recognized for something you are good at in high school and it feels really good to be so much better than everyone else, even if you are in constant pain. I know she says she doesn't care if she is in a wheelchair, but she probably does care. She probably thinks about what might happen to her in the future if she keeps this up. Just let her know you still love her, record fast runner or not, she is still super talented and she will make it far in life. It would just be nice to avoid those painful surgeries, leg braces, crutches, and possibly a wheelchair..

I have no idea what you should do about your husband. He seems to not understand the permanent damage his own daughter is facing and how it might affect the rest of her life once she is out of high school and silly track records don't matter..