Well turns out SHANDY is a SHAND-HE! I showed her to a few SB people and they said the tail appears male, then had me take a picture of the underside of the tail and pretty positive its a male snake. The guy said you can see hints of the hemipenes under the skin by the vent and even though I can see them on my lizards I cant see them on the snake, but I trust their word, and after looking side by side with the for sure female, other than the HUGE size difference the tail difference is very obvious, Shandy has a longer thin tail and the female has a shorter stumpy tail.
ThanksLooks "she" will be getting a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend lol that would have been a little awkward getting him a bf lol