I ordered my spider BP from another large breeder similar to BHB and she was a bit scared, stressed and nippy when I first got her. She now tolerates being handled (and was advised to by my breeder) twice a day for around 30 minutes each time. I started with 5-10 minute sessions once a day for a week, bumped it up to 5-10 minutes twice a day, and I am up to twice a day for 30 minutes (except feeding day and the day after). She has warmed up nicely and I think she expects to be picked up as when I walk into the room she slithers out of her hide seemingly to say, "Here I am, I'm all yours!" (not really but I like to believe it ).