Overall she has a great enclosure: 20 gal. w/ 6x8 UTH on warm side. Cypress substrate. Warm side around 85, basking spot at 90, cool side 75-78. Humidity stable between 50%-60%. (We're in the North Central US and winters can get dry so I do mist a couple times a day and it will reach 70%-80% for a few hours after misting). Medium hide on warm side. Water dish on cool side.

The good news is, before I left for work today she was half out of her hide just watching me...no strike pose or defensive strikes. My wife has been keeping an eye on her as well today and she has been out basking, relaxed...not all coiled tight, no defensive strikes at her (her closet is right next to the Spider's enclosure) and out wandering...exploring her enclosure. SO like any animal, she'll just need to be worked with a little more to gain that trust relationship.

Hopefully today is the start of good days ahead...

Thanks for everyone's replies!