I waited 3 days to hold mine....the 3 days was so he could adjust to a new owner, new home etc

You dont have to do anything with your pet you dont want to....no one is going to force you to breed

My BP was sexed by the breeder within a week or so of hatching he told me when I was asking some questions before buying my little guy..I dont know why 4 feedings is any sort of schedule?

Continue to feed your snake on whatever schedule he was fed on before you got him...I spoke to my BPs breeder at length about his eating habits and schedule....I have mine on a every 5 days schedule....when he gets a bit bigger (hes only 3.5 months and abotu 215 grams) ill switch him to every 7 or 8 days or so...or adjust the feeding schedule as needed....