Extreme Rant. (about a stupid family issue)

[Quantum Constrictors]

Then just leave. If they get home before you, they will see him sleeping. If they still blow up in your face and get all nasty, simply say in a calm tone "I've tried reasoning with the both of you. The dog is in no harm, and perfectly fine being left alone. I am no longer willing to put my life on hold because you *sister* cannot take responsibility for your own dog. Good day. *walk out, and or brace for impact*"

If she kicks you out, so be it. Bunk with a friend for a night or two until she comes to her senses. Or, start looking for a cheap studio flat.

Just my 2¢
I hope everything works out whatever happens!

I 100% agree.

So just... leave him. If he doesn't cause a ruckus or damage to the house, I don't see the issue other than your mother and sister's comfort. If they're abusing you physically, take note of it and actually report it. It's not your animal, and it absolutely is not your responsibility. I am not optimistic about this having a happy ending for everybody, but just stick to your guns about the dog not being one of your issues. Heck, doesn't seem like he even has anxiety if he just sleeps. Big load of nothing from controlling mother and sis.

This site is full of scripts for dealing with difficult people. A lot of it focuses on dating issues and what not, but they also have people who write in about difficult family stuff, might be helpful to you. This is sounding less like a dog issue and more like mom and sis wanting their doted furry baby watched at all times so that -they- feel better. Steaming load of crap, I'm irritated with them and haven't even met them

Thanks V.P,

They have never physically done anything but they are experts at mental abuse.



Another thing is that I have my own dog. But she is a Bulldog. She is only 6 months old but she really isnt a hassle and I mean I only want to leave for a night and a day!

My bulldog has gone through training and knows a ton of commands and is crate trained. I have left her alone before and all she does is just goes and lays on the couch or plays with her toys.

But they ALWAYS use her against me. Saying that if I leave then thats me forcing them to babysit her.

I am like REALLY?! The dog is already independent. She goes out when she needs the bathroom and if she gets bored she plays with her toys. All they would have to do is feed her in the morning and at night. Thats not babysitting her at all!!!

[satomi325]

That's why I'm a cat owner.

Cats can be just as anxious or destructive as a dog.
My friend's cat used to be so wild that he would go for the jugular every time you lock eyes with him.
He would run laps around the house and pee everywhere out of boredom. He isn't feral or intact.
The cat was taken to a Petsmart puppy clicker training class and has to be walked on a leash daily. And he's been a lot better behaved since and not so neurotic.

[aldebono]

My 8 year old Chi-Dausch-Russle got stuck in the crate recently and will be from now on. The thing poops more than he eats. He has been fine with it because both dogs sleep ALL DAY. He is also beside a friend who is in her own crate.

Crates= best thing ever.

[Kaorte]

Ouch, that is a tricky situation. Clearly your sister doesn't actually care about her dog, otherwise she would take care of it properly... That is just sad. Poor pooch!!

Maybe you could get an in home dog trainer to come and asses the behavior of both the dogs, with your mother and sister present. Maybe the trainer can convince them that the dogs don't need to be watched 24/7 and should be allowed some independence. A dog is not an infant. You should not treat a dog as if it's an infant. That is unfair to both the dog, and the human who has to "watch" the dog.

I just don't see how you can change their minds with your opinion alone. They seem to think that everything you say is wrong and they are always right. Boy are they wrong! You need some outside help. Hell I'll come over there and give them my "opinion"


In the mean time, if they don't specifically ask you to watch the dog, act as if you aren't there watching it. Crate your dog when you leave and let the other dog do what it wants. When they come home wondering where you are say "I didn't agree to watch this dog, my dog is in her crate, and I have a life, kthxbye." Be as calm as possible. Don't let their yelling and screaming bother you. Don't argue with them, just go back to the facts. It is not your dog, you are not responsible for it, you are not required to watch it unless asked specifically.


This situation is ridiculous! This shouldn't even be a source of stress for you. It is just so unneeded and selfish of them, and just down right stupid. Your mother and sister are acting like 3 year olds being denied candy.

Have them read this thread. Maybe they will snap out of their delusions.

[wolfy-hound]

If they don't ask you to stay with the dog, why are you staying with the dog?

It's your mom's house. I don't care if your existence caused her to get more welfare or not. If she says "This" then suck it up and deal with it or move out. You don't have a job yet, which I'm assuming means you haven't been paying any bills or rent.

When you have a renter's agreement with them, or move into your own place, you get to decide some rules. Until then, it sucks but it's part of living on someone else's dime.

(I agree, leaving a dog at home by itself isn't going to harm MOST dogs. Some freak out, but it's rare. I doubt the dog would care much if it's given a treat to chew on and people left for a while).

[Kodieh]

I'll be that guy.

Just leave. Go when you want, you're a grown :censored: adult. Tell you're sister that people like her are the reason dogs end up on HSUS commercials and either be an owner or get rid of it.

But, I get what you mean about pugs. I just hate the breed myself, and my wife's parents have one. Noisiest, whiniest waste of space there is. I've almost punted the thing, for almost getting himself killed when he tries to bite by GSD x Shiba Inu mix because food is being eaten. I also hate that in any dog. One it can shorten their life by being given tacos and hamburgers but two it creates terrible socialization habits. The little thing stares at me the entire time I eat. Course I'm an elitist in dogs, and unless its on the large side of medium or is a large breed, I just dont like it.

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[Quantum Constrictors]

I do want to just go lol

I really have no problem with going I give up with taking care of that dog.

But when I do go to leave I feel uber guilty about leaving my dog overnight.

[OctagonGecko729]

Did your sister actually hit you with a closed hand(I think an open hand counts in Canada aswell)? If so, thats assault, regardless of how strong she is or not, she is grown enough to know not to lay her hands on another person. There is also no excuse whatsoever for your mother to begin yelling and shutting down the conversation when you bring this up. You have a rational complaint about a responsibility that isn't justly yours. How do you bring up this issue to them though, are you calm and collected or emotional when you bring it up? They have no excuse either way but I'm just trying to help you avoid conflict with them. Explaining to them more why it isn't your responsibility also will not work as they have both already showed that they have no respect for rationality.

[Quantum Constrictors]

Did your sister actually hit you with a closed hand(I think an open hand counts in Canada aswell)? If so, thats assault, regardless of how strong she is or not, she is grown enough to know not to lay her hands on another person. There is also no excuse whatsoever for your mother to begin yelling and shutting down the conversation when you bring this up. You have a rational complaint about a responsibility that isn't justly yours. How do you bring up this issue to them though, are you calm and collected or emotional when you bring it up? They have no excuse either way but I'm just trying to help you avoid conflict with them. Explaining to them more why it isn't your responsibility also will not work as they have both already showed that they have no respect for rationality.

Oh she didnt actually hit me. She threatened to "knock my F'ing Lights out if I dont shut the F up.''

And yes I have tried the calm and collected way and still they just instantly flare up.

[RoseyReps]

I do want to just go lol

I really have no problem with going I give up with taking care of that dog.

But when I do go to leave I feel uber guilty about leaving my dog overnight.

If your dog is trained well, couldn't you bring him with you to the g/f's place for a night?