Extreme Rant. (about a stupid family issue)

[Quantum Constrictors]

Ok.

So.

I have been fighting with my mom and my sister for ever about this and the issue came up again yesterday.

My sister has a 6 year old pug that has never been alone in its life and has separation issues.

NOW this WHOLE issue is ALL because of this dog.

I dont have a job right now but I am currently looking and also I just got a girlfriend so my time is about to be really tied up.

ANYWAYS, I have babysat this dog AT LEAST 4 times a week. For the last 6 years.

For 5 and a half of those 6 years I have NEVER been asked or THANKED for babysitting this dog. They will just go out without asking me or anything. Now that I have a girlfriend and hopefully a job anytime now I dont have time to babysit this dog. And now I am starting to have to make plans around this dog thats not even MINE.

My sister goes to her boyfriends and stays there every weekend (without taking HER OWN DOG) so now if my mom works and shes not here I have to STAY here and babysit the thing! So what happens when I have a job and my mom and I work the same shift and she is not at home????

Yesterday, I wanted to spend the night at my girlfriends BUT I couldnt! WHY because no one would be home TODAY to babysit the dog. WHY? Because my mom worked and my sister is babysitting her boyfriends nieces and nephews! WHY CANT SHE TAKE THE DOG??

ALL this is driving me nuts!!! And if I bring it up I AM THE BAD GUY!!! If I refuse to babysit the dog I get YELLED AT AND VERBALLY ABUSED by my mother AND my sister!!!

I wish someone other then me could talk to them and knock some damn sense into them! Everyone I have talked to agrees with me! BUT I CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. Its driving me to the point that I am about to flip out and get uber angry.

Like seriously am I in the wrong????

I have never once agreed to babysitting this dog. Sure I did when they first got him. But then they stopped asking me!!! I dont get a thank you when they come home. I dont get any kind of payment for it, NOTHING.

OH the thing that really peeves me off. IS that this dog does NOTHING literally NOTHING. He sleeps for 23 hours a day. Never moves from his chair and when he does its because someone is cooking in the kitchen. They dont even take this dog for a walk. I cant even remember when he went outside last besides to go to the bathroom on the apartments balcony.

/end rant.

Someone please help me.

[Mike41793]

Do you have any friends who own a burm or retic?

[Quantum Constrictors]

Do you have any friends who own a burm or retic?

You are such a massive D.

LOL I love that dog. I am just sick of the whole responsibility of that dog being given to me when my sister doesnt even have a job and is on disability so she literally does nothing all day everyday.

[Mike41793]

Thanks, i get that alot.

[Annarose15]

Do you have any friends who own a burm or retic?

Love it!

In all seriousness, you have two options. 1) State your case to your mom when it isn't an immediate and specific issue, and then accept her decision until you can move out (her house, her rules). 2) Leave the house whenever you want and reap the consequences (like being tossed out and screamed at more).

[Chkadii]

What type of behavior does the pug exhibit when he feels separated from the family? Is it just barking, or does he do damage to the house?

It would take some time, but you could try crate training. My moms dogs know to go to their crate (they're small and share a large crate- they were separated but prefer to be together) when she's getting ready to walk out the door. They don't have access to furniture, so they can't scratch or chew our stuff up, and they don't mess in the crate because its their personal den space. It might help to drape a blanket over half of it too, sort of like we do for snakes. It sounds odd but the dogs don't mind it at all, and they go in when they're scared or sleepy. Just don't ever punish him by putting him in his crate, because he'll try to avoid it after that.

[satomi325]

Ok. What exactly happens to the Pug when no body is home? How severe is the anxiety?
If it's was with Lola, would it be ok? Or is human presence needed? If the anxiety is very severe, that dog should possibly be put on meds.....

Tell your sister, if she can't take responsibility for her own dog, she shouldn't own it.
It's not your dog or your responsibility. You've done the nice thing all these years, but it's still not your responsibility.

[Quantum Constrictors]

Love it!

In all seriousness, you have two options. 1) State your case to your mom when it isn't an immediate and specific issue, and then accept her decision until you can move out (her house, her rules). 2) Leave the house whenever you want and reap the consequences (like being tossed out and screamed at more).

1) I have brought it up when it wasnt immediate or specific and it ends in a huge yelling argument.
2) I cant do that because I am a good little boy who would feel to guilty. I would like to see her toss me out when for a whole year she wouldn't have been able to receive money from welfare without my name on the cheque.

What type of behavior does the pug exhibit when he feels separated from the family? Is it just barking, or does he do damage to the house?

It would take some time, but you could try crate training. My moms dogs know to go to their crate (they're small and share a large crate- they were separated but prefer to be together) when she's getting ready to walk out the door. They don't have access to furniture, so they can't scratch or chew our stuff up, and they don't mess in the crate because its their personal den space. It might help to drape a blanket over half of it too, sort of like we do for snakes. It sounds odd but the dogs don't mind it at all, and they go in when they're scared or sleepy. Just don't ever punish him by putting him in his crate, because he'll try to avoid it after that.

The dog has LITERALLY NEVER EVER been alone before. The dog doesnt even know any commands. I doubt he can learn how to be create trained.

[Quantum Constrictors]

Ok. What exactly happens to the Pug when no body is home? How severe is the anxiety?
If she was with Lola, would she be ok? Or is human presence needed? If the anxiety is very severe, that dog should possibly be put on meds.....

Tell your sister, if she can't take responsibility for her own dog, she shouldn't own it.
It's not your dog or your responsibility. You've done the nice thing all these years, but it's still not your responsibility.

Like I said he has never been home alone so no one knows. But when my mom or sister leave the car when we are out shopping. Watch out this dog goes crazy.

Lola likes to bug him so I doubt it but she does snuggle with him when they sleep.

I have told my sister that and I almost got my lights knocked out.

[Annarose15]

1) I have brought it up when it wasnt immediate or specific and it ends in a huge yelling argument.
2) I cant do that because I am a good little boy who would feel to guilty. I would like to see her toss me out when for a whole year she wouldn't have been able to receive money from welfare without my name on the cheque.

The dog has LITERALLY NEVER EVER been alone before. The dog doesnt even know any commands. I doubt he can learn how to be create trained.

1) Good little boys don't yell at their moms (even when being yelled at). Maybe reconsider your approach if it leads to yelling. I know I haven't heard your arguments to her, but the burden of communication is on the person speaking not, the person listening.

2) Open crate door, insert yippy dog, close crate door. Training complete. It isn't as though he's too strong for you/mom/sis to put him in there against his will.