Thank for the replies- It makes sense to me - the more you handle the more they get use to it. But I've always been extra cautious- moving slow, etc. The snake is "technically" my daughters, and I feel im always telling her "slow down, dont move to fast, dont startle her" etc. but maybe I should just let her be, so the snake gets use to a little more movement.
She always seems just fine- she has never coiled up in a ball, since we got her. She'll sit still for a while, when we first take her out, but soon after she starts cruising all around our hands, legs, etc. So she seems ok and not "stressed"
Just curious what others thought- thanks again!