Sometimes I hate him!

[lovepig78]

If he can't spend the same amount of money as you spend on pets.... Your not in a fare relationship....

if he doesn't bring food from the restaurant... He doesn't care for you...

if you guys can't sit alone together... You guys have obviously grown apart from each other....

With $1200 a month you could find an apartment and live on your own... Find roommates or rent a room in someone's house... Maybe a garage? Craigslist will help...


imo

[Kinra]

Your relationship doesn't sound very healthy and for your own sake it might be time to leave him. You say you need to stay with him because you can't afford to live on your own, why not find a new place and a roommate? That would give you someone to split the bills with but would hopefully be a healthier situation for you.

[Argentra]

Ok, I'm going to throw my advice cents in here regarding finances and prioritizing, as I have been in serious financial straights (and I mean almost on the street with nothing serious) myself...recently at that.

First priority, as you most likely know, is housing. If one does not have a place to stay, then other bills are moot. This means your own place, being a roommate with others, or staying with family or a friend for a while. In the budget, this is #1.
Next are the utilities - electric, gas, water. Especially as it gets colder, heating of some sort is important. Granted, these one can do without if absolutely necessary (and you have plenty of blankets and such), but they are still important. I budget for these #2.
Then, you have food. One of the basics for living, and something you can go cheap on, as others have already said (rice and beans and pasta are cheap) but NOT do without.

Those are the main three expenses when in a pinch. Things like internet, phone, and cable you should do without. When you keep in contact with people, let them know the situation, you might even find that they tell you about local assistance programs to help with phone bills and utility bills.
Now, as far as loans or credit cards go... these are actually LAST in importance. You have to live, and loan payments are not helping you do that. I know, I have 2 credit cards and several student loans I need to pay back...but the loans haven't been touched yet and the cards only get bare minimum when I can spare it. The old saying 'you can't squeeze blood from stone' applies well here. Call the banks and let them know you're in tight financial times and can't afford the full payments. They should be willing to find you a different plan until you're better off, maybe get you lower monthly payments or even find a way to do a deferment or forbearance. And of course, you should look into federal consolidation, which applies to regular loans as well as student.

Ok that's my money advice. As for right now, first you need to find a shelter, church, some place you can get a meal. They are out there, you just need to ask around. After that, you can sit down and think out what you want to do with your life and if that plan includes the man you're with now. Remember, no matter what is happening, It's YOUR Life! You must do what is best for you that lets you live a good and happy life.
Look into all your options, keep calm, and remember you have friends you can turn to. Good luck, hon!

[Vasiliki]

Living with someone because you're afraid to be alone is not living.

Before I get to anything else on this topic directly, I have to ask you....


Are you happy?

[Savannelee]

Things are never going to change if you do nothing about it...You need to get your priorities straight. It might help to make a list of pros and cons of staying with your partner and if the list of cons out weighs the pros I think it may be time to move on.
You will never know whats out there if you dont at least try. Maybe easier said than done but you will be happier in the long run.
Also if you somethimes HATE your partner, well thats not a good thing.
Good Luck in whatever you choose.

[PorcelainxDoll]

Living with someone because you're afraid to be alone is not living.

Before I get to anything else on this topic directly, I have to ask you....


Are you happy?

80% of the time yes.
This is an isolated instsnce. He does a lot of stupid selfish things. It has never been this bad before.
I may sound stupid, I am just not the kind of person to give up on my marriage. My mom was married 6x. I dont want that to happen to me.
He has promised to make this situation right so we will see.
Thank you everyone for your advice. I am very much taking it all in.

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[Raptor]

Sometimes it's worth roughing it, sometimes it's better to cut your losses.

Don't be prideful and stay in a bad situation just because you don't want to be like your mother. Chances are, she saw a bad situation and chose to get out of it.

[Mike41793]

80% of the time yes.
This is an isolated instsnce. He does a lot of stupid selfish things. It has never been this bad before.
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This is an isolated instance but he does alot of stupid selfish things? That doesnt make sense.

Only 80% of the time youre happy? You only have one life to live, why not live it 100% happy all the time? When you grow old you dont wanna be looking back and thinking that you were only happy part of the time.

[PorcelainxDoll]

Well I found $40 more taken when I woke up.. Ya I think I am done.

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[Norsejeff]

If you haven't eaten in 3 days, what are you feeding HIM? He probably needs the weed to be able to stomach the ketchup and crackers you are forcing him scavenge for by not cooking regular meals.