Quote Originally Posted by Mike41793 View Post
If shes 18 and has finished highschool then i feel like its not your problem. She chose to move out here with you, she should have thought about it harder i guess. Ask her why she was so gung-ho to move out to WI in the first place? Is there something that hasnt hapoened since you got there that she was expecting to happen...? I know shes your sister but screw the whole "being lazy, sleeping all day, and not doing anything" attitude. You need to give her a kick in the butt and make her start sleeping at the normal hours and start looking for a job. Or at the very least help out around the house. Shes 18 and youre not her mother, she should be doing something to help out. If she doesnt want to get a job to pay for a flight back to NH then tell her she has to help out around the house for awhile until you can afford to fly her back.

I apologize if i come off as harsh but i have a pretty harsh and negative opinion of lazy people...
In all honesty, if she is ACTUALLY depressed, then these aren't symptoms of "being lazy". They are symptoms of, you guessed it, DEPRESSION.
Personally speaking, if you're in a bout of more intense, deep depression, it is very difficult to drag yourself out of bed, especially if you have no job and have no school. Very difficult.

However, I can't tell from the OP if the girl is actually depressed or if she is using the term "I'm depressed" loosely.

I would tell her to give it a chance. You don't have the money to send her back so give it more time and if it doesn't work out, THEN you can start having a conversation about sending her back.