I've been pairing the Spider to her since July, and I never witnessed any locks. I threw the normal male in with her just to see if he'd get it done, and the sure as heck did! Their first lock lasted well over 48 hours, hahah.
Anyway, as someone mentioned, I didn't originally post about methods to get the spider to breed, I'm just trying to find out if her excessive soaking is a good sign. I appreciate the encouragement tips for the spider though! He needs to step up his game, lol.