Quote Originally Posted by melodyb1985 View Post
do u believe once a cheater always a cheater? if your spouse cheated on you...would you give them another chance in the future? i ask because friday night i found out my fiance cheated on me...and he has been begging for me to forgive him, and told me he didnt know how much he realy loved me and wanted me till i packed my stuff up and left...and that he realizes he has treated me like crap for a while now and he would do anything to change...i told him i dont know what to do..i told him he had to tell his "friends" that talked him into cheating on me and the sister of his friend that he cheated on me with to not come around no more, and that he wanted me and she was a mistake..he did it face to face with all 3 of them....and he changed his number so they couldnt call..but im still not sure if i should walk away from him forever..or be his friend and see if he changess....there are three parts of me ....one says forgive him and he regrets it..i know thats the stupid part of me and i wont do it...the 2nd is walk away and never look back...but even after this i still love him..but the 3rd is give him a chance to prove himself and be his friend...and see what happens with the friendship in a year or so....everyone i asked tells me to walk away and find someone better..but none of them are in stable relationships or have ever been in a stable relationship..and are family so they are going to tell me to leave cause he hurt me..sorry for the ramble..im confused..please i need advice..not hate..i would post on my mommy forum but there all females...and i think a males point of view is just as important
A male's perspective:

If my significant other ever cheated on me, I would be too devastated and the relationship would be too fractured to ever be repaired. I would cut ties with her completely, and unfortunately the likelihood of cutting ties with her family who I adore and our mutual friends would be inevitable.

That's just me I guess. Lying, cheating, and abusing trust are not qualities I want in a significant other.

I don't necessarily think "once a cheater always a cheater" is true, but I do think "once a cheater, a proven lier, and while cheating is not guaranteed, abusing trust in some form will likely happen again". It's not as nicely worded, but there you go.

Your decision is your own, but I personally don't understand anyone who can continue with a relationship with someone who cheated.