cheating

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do u believe once a cheater always a cheater? if your spouse cheated on you...would you give them another chance in the future? i ask because friday night i found out my fiance cheated on me...and he has been begging for me to forgive him, and told me he didnt know how much he realy loved me and wanted me till i packed my stuff up and left...and that he realizes he has treated me like crap for a while now and he would do anything to change...i told him i dont know what to do..i told him he had to tell his "friends" that talked him into cheating on me and the sister of his friend that he cheated on me with to not come around no more, and that he wanted me and she was a mistake..he did it face to face with all 3 of them....and he changed his number so they couldnt call..but im still not sure if i should walk away from him forever..or be his friend and see if he changess....there are three parts of me ....one says forgive him and he regrets it..i know thats the stupid part of me and i wont do it...the 2nd is walk away and never look back...but even after this i still love him..but the 3rd is give him a chance to prove himself and be his friend...and see what happens with the friendship in a year or so....everyone i asked tells me to walk away and find someone better..but none of them are in stable relationships or have ever been in a stable relationship..and are family so they are going to tell me to leave cause he hurt me..sorry for the ramble..im confused..please i need advice..not hate..i would post on my mommy forum but there all females...and i think a males point of view is just as important

Think of this time with your fiance as something akin to test driving a new car. Go with that visual.

You are driving down the road in this new car on a test drive. There is a smarmy salesman riding shotgun with you wearing white shoes with maroon pants and a white belt. You are taking in that new car smell and have started to imagine it parked in your driveway You are driving it down the highway at top speed and all four wheels fall off and the hood flies open.

Would you still buy the car?

Didn't think so.