I'm short (5'7"), so I like girls that are shorter than I am. I've tried to be the big spoon when the little spoon was bigger than me. It's mechanically frustrating.

The media is a joke. The influence on youth and body image is quite unfortunate. I'd write a book if I started on this topic. It makes women who are desirable to decent men think that they're inadequate and they become envious of women that just plain suck, to put it simply. You don't want a guy who wants a body, you want a guy who wants you. You can sit and laugh and mock at the women who think otherwise and devote their energy to it once you make this realization. That's the kind of girl that's attractive to me.

More importantly is the idea that people are envious of things they simply should not be envious of. Those people end up on TV and magazines because they're entertaining, not because they're higher value than anyone else. Do you know what kind of guy creates a happy relationship with one of those snotty, duck lipped, drama-loving, clown-painted women? I've been friends with some of them. You don't want them.

That was my realization recently. Only in the last few years (I'm 26 now) did my brain change its version of what is attractive to me. Personality is much more attractive than physical form. Post-realization I'd say my only physical requirements are that a girl look healthy. Too skinny and too heavy, too much make-up or too nice of clothes, too baggy of clothes, etc are all signs of personality flaws. I'll pass on those, too.

All that said, I do prefer women with a healthy grip to them. I want them to be soft, but to still be able to identify muscle and bone beneath. Man that sounds weird to put in such... scientific terms lol