The person you got her from *had her probed? So the person you got the female from doesn't know how to sex snakes and had someone else do it? Unless that someone else is an actual breeder who has sexed many snakes and knows how to pop and probe correctly, I would not trust that it's actually a female..

You have no idea how many pet stores and new keepers think they know how to correctly sex a snake, including probing (both sides) without injuring the animal, but end up mis-sexing them.

Did this so-called female do any tail wagging when the male was put in there? If not, and considering the behaviour of the male, I'm inclined to think the other one is also male. I'd get them both re-sexed by someone who actually does this regularly.

How big is the other one in grams?