The female might not enjoy it too much, but I have noticed that my breeders act a little faster if I put them in right after I take out another male that has locked with the female. That might get your spider moving. You could also put the female, normal male that will breed and the spider in together. That didn't really work for me, but it doesn't hurt to try. Pairing during storms and using sperm plugs from other males really got my males into action this past season.